new internationalist
issue 222 - August 1991

The myth of
'compassion fatigue'
Anuradha Vittachi finds herself in conversation with a voice in her
head.
Oh no, not another disaster, not before breakfast. Switch off the news, I haven't got my defences up yet.
You don't imagine you're suffering from 'compassion fatigue', I hope.
I might be. Everyone else seems to be.
Nonsense. Compassion doesn't make you feel tired. It enlivens you. Remember when you saw that woman knocked into the air by the drunk driver and thwack down onto the car bonnet.
What about it?
I remember your heart pounding, speeding all that extra oxygen into your legs so they could race over to her. Your adrenaline level was rocketing. And your mind side-stepped what you were preoccupied with at the time - a cheese and tomato sandwich, as I recall - and started whirling around, working out the fastest way to get her an ambulance. Didn't seem like fatigue to me.
I don't remember the sandwich. Anyway, that was just once. Compassion fatigue is what comes over you when you keep coming across disasters. If I saw it happen every time I stepped out in the street...
Well, obviously! If you kept solemnly racing to the phone for ambulances because you saw women being thrown into the air every time you opened your front door, you'd need the ambulance. Complete with people in white coats.
Well, it's true. If there were that many accidents I would try to think up a better response than just phoning for an ambulance.
Exactly. It wouldn't be 'compassion fatigue' that stopped you phoning. It'd be common sense. You would have seen the need to put in a bit of long-term thinking to solve the problem, instead of just operating a quick fix.
What is this elaborate metaphor of yours supposed to teach me?
That you have begun to realize that your old remedy for coping with global tragedies - sending a few dollars to charity every month or so - simply isn't enough on its own. It's a calling-the-ambulance response. Your despair at the pointlessness of sending more dribs and drabs of money means that you have finally recognized it's time for a re-assessment, a deeper diagnosis.
I suppose it would be rather neurotic to go on reacting in an old way after I have recognized it's no longer effective.
It's a definition of behaving neurotically. Or if it isn't, it should be.
So what would a more useful response be, when I am facing so many terrible disasters?
How should I know? There isn't a ready-made, generally recognized response to this scale of problem.
But I can't sort out by myself all the factors that come together to make a disaster, like international politicking or macro-economics or global weather variables. It's all too much to cope with. Isn't there anyone who has sorted out how to cope with these huge global dilemmas?
Not really. On the whole religious leaders and politicians are too sectarian to care that much about people outside their constituencies; journalists rarely bother to investigate what is really going on. International charity workers are probably the best placed to know what kinds of structural changes need to take place but they are expressly forbidden to 'meddle in politics'.
So charities are forbidden to help enough; the government doesn't care enough; ordinary citizens don't know enough...
No wonder people hesitate and despair.
Perhaps I should rename 'compassion fatigue' something like 'misery-at-realizing-the-ineffectiveness-of-our-range-of-responses fatigue'.
Not quite as catchy, is it?
'Powerlessness fatigue'? 'Hopelessness fatigue'?
Still not catchy, but they do pinpoint the problem. It's not feeling compassionate that you get tired from, it's feeling helpless. People don't like that.
No more do I. Houndering in bog and fog without any clear path out of it: it's a real recipe for depression.
And depression is more fatiguing than anything else.
Odd, isn't it? When I'm depressed I do much less work and I fall asleep a lot - so why should I be more tired?
Because, even though you're not using up your energy to work, you are consuming it doing something else: pushing those dark, painful feelings like hopelessness down below the level of consciousness, keeping them hidden and denied.
Like pressing down a jack-in-the-box lid with your thumb. Hey I'm depressing the lid - I never thought of the word so literally before.
Metaphors are wonderfully literal.
Oh, please, paradoxes before breakfast are too much.
Sorry.
So I am left to work out a response to these global tragedies by myself - and then hopelessness and depression drain off my creative energies before I've begun to think.
It would help if you didn't try for some global panacea, but you could figure out some useful small-scale responses.
You mean I don't have to solve everything all by myself!
It may not really be your ignorance that is stopping you - though that is considerable...
Thanks a lot.
It sounds more like 'helplessness fatigue' because you think you have to solve it all. Gautama Buddha couldn't solve it all, Jesus Christ couldn't, Mahatma Gandhi couldn't, but you feel bad because you can't.
Well, okay. But even if I can't do everything, I need to feel confidence that I can make some useful contribution, even if it is small. That's the way I get my strength and hope back.
You are such an achievement addict! If you don't get your daily fix of feeling you've 'made a difference', you're miserable.
It's not just me, it's the whole culture I live in. It's so end-gaining, goal-oriented; so heroic, macho, performance-conscious.
I assume that, by this appalling jargon, you mean you have become dependent on seeing quick and measurable results for your efforts.
Well, the quality of being doesn't count in present-day society, even though all the greatest sages and wisest prophets were preaching about being: only doing counts. You can't be a be-er. The word doesn't even exist. You can only be a doer - or a don't-er.
But you seem to have bought the culture's view that you have to be either a total fixer or a total failure.
I suppose that's right. If I think I'm not going to be able to fix something, like a huge crisis on the other side of the world, I imagine I'll be better off avoiding it altogether. So I switch off the news.
The combination of high drama and helplessness isn't easy to live with, I admit. And total denial is the simplest method of avoidance. A subtler method is participating in an illusion of useful action.
You mean like green consumerism? People's fears about global warming are soaring so companies calm them down by offering them lists of so-called environment-friendly' products to buy. Then people could carry on consuming happily in the illusion that they were actively healing the planet.
Living in a consumerist trance. And what about husbands who promise to be faithful 'next time'? Their wives believe them because they want to - may need to - go on believing in the illusion of marital fidelity, stay in the trance. Just as we have gone on buying the illusion that drips of charity here and there can help, until it has been finally borne in upon us by the sheer scale of the disasters that charity is just not enough. Then the veil of illusion is torn, and we see reality for a moment, that charity has to give way to justice.
But if justice is your answer it won't get very far: we don't like the idea of having to make serious sacrifices. And we won't: it's not human nature to give up privileges.
So you are framing the only two choices available to us as avoidance or selfishness.
I suppose so.
In other words, a refusal to face the problem - or a refusal to face the solution! If that's the case, you really are admitting that 'compassion fatigue' doesn't exist - because compassion doesn't exist.
Well. I think it does exist - it's just hard to get at.
It's hidden behind the barrier of our fears. I know what you most fear.
Loneliness and destitution.
Which is why you get so upset when you see people who have nothing and belong nowhere. You don't really see the other person at all - all you see is your fear. 'There but for the grace of God go I,' you mutter as you hurry away.
Actually, this reminds me of a strange experience I once had. It sounds very corny...
Spit it out!
It was a bit like being in a dream, though I was wide awake. I felt like I had this black mess of pain and misery inside my stomach, which I had to 'vomit' out. I remember heaving and retching, and though nothing actually came out, I could 'see' in my mind's eye the black mess at my feet - and I knew that it was everything I most feared. I also knew I could choose to avoid it again, by running away from it or swallowing it down out of sight. Or step right into it. Which I did. And then I saw these destitute people all around me. I was surrounded by them! But suddenly, instead of feeling terrified and claustrophobic, I felt completely one of them. It was wonderfully peaceful and joyful, like I belonged with them all.
Your brothers and sisters.
Well, actually, yes. I wonder if that's why nuns and priests take the vows of poverty and are called 'Sisters' and 'Brothers': perhaps it is so they have this experience of being the sisters and brothers of the poor...
'Com-passion' means being with the suffering - not disliking them and scattering largesse at arms' length to make the sufferers and their problem go away. The proper meaning of 'charity' is love - and what love does is connect. You should try connecting with your compassion next time you see someone or something painful on the breakfast news.
It might even stop me suffering from compassion fatigue'...
Anuradha Vittachi is a former NI co-editor and author of Stolen Childhood: In Search of the Rights of the Child (Polity Press).

